[UPDATE]Haha. OK, well I happen to still have it open so I'll paste the question and the most popular answer below. It might actually be fake because it's so absurd but I like the idea that it's real.
I'm concerned that my son has a secret girlfriend?
My 17 year old son has been very secretive with me lately, recently he has started to refuse to go to church with the family and tonight when I was going through his room I found a magazine with naked men in it. He obviously has a girlfriend that he is hiding from me that brought that magazine into my home and I am afraid they are having intercourse and I am greatly concerned that he is going to get her pregnant.
What should I do about this?
What should I do about this?
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He is not a homosexual, we have taught him from the bible and he has learned though our church that this is not in God's plan. I will not teach him about condoms, that is unacceptable, we have always taught him about abstinence and that is what God and his future wife expects from him.
I want to speak to our pastor about this but I am very afraid of what he would think we are teaching our son if he things we are allowing him to sneak a girl into his bedroom. That is clearly inappropriate and we are good parents, I am very afraid what he will think of us.
I want to speak to our pastor about this but I am very afraid of what he would think we are teaching our son if he things we are allowing him to sneak a girl into his bedroom. That is clearly inappropriate and we are good parents, I am very afraid what he will think of us.
Best Answer - Chosen by Voters
If your SON had a magazine of naken MEN I am doubting that he has a secret GIRLFRIEND. I'm thinking that your son it probably questioning his sexuality, or has already determined that he is gay.
The best thing to do is be open, honest and truthful. Tell him you were spying on him, and going through his belongings when you came across his hidden magazine. Ask, don't acuse, and if he doesn't want to talk to you about it, respect his wishes. Yelling or preaching to him about how "wrong" homosexuality is is not going to get him to open up to you.
You were wrong for snooping through your 17 year old son's belongings. Did you think you would find his secret girlfriend under his mattress?
EDIT: Let me see if I understand. You will not allow your son to be gay because the bible says it's wrong. You will not talk to your son about condoms because you feel it's wrong? So, your son is supposed to what... sit in his room alone and miserable because he might be feeling or doing something his mother would not condone? I think that being a good mother means listening to your son and accepting him for what he is. Whether he is gay or not is not something you have control over. Neither is his going out and having sex (or safe sex) if that is what he wants to do. Are you going to chain him to his bed so he can't leave? Drop him off at school and pick him up so you know he isn't doing something on the way there or home that YOU disapprove of? Give the kid some breathing room and hope you raised him right. I'm assuming that he will be graduating in May... are you going to forbid him from going to college because he WILL encounter homo-sexuals, bi-sexuals and heterosexuals engaging in safe sex. There will be sex, drugs, drinking, partying, swearing. Loosen the reins a little bit and believe that you reared him well. You're going on about being a "good mother" then believe that you did the best you could. No matter how much you preach your beliefs, opinions and morals he is his own person... not a clone of you. Trust that he is doing the right thing for himself, as you should have taught him to do... and not to listen to what others say about him.
The best thing to do is be open, honest and truthful. Tell him you were spying on him, and going through his belongings when you came across his hidden magazine. Ask, don't acuse, and if he doesn't want to talk to you about it, respect his wishes. Yelling or preaching to him about how "wrong" homosexuality is is not going to get him to open up to you.
You were wrong for snooping through your 17 year old son's belongings. Did you think you would find his secret girlfriend under his mattress?
EDIT: Let me see if I understand. You will not allow your son to be gay because the bible says it's wrong. You will not talk to your son about condoms because you feel it's wrong? So, your son is supposed to what... sit in his room alone and miserable because he might be feeling or doing something his mother would not condone? I think that being a good mother means listening to your son and accepting him for what he is. Whether he is gay or not is not something you have control over. Neither is his going out and having sex (or safe sex) if that is what he wants to do. Are you going to chain him to his bed so he can't leave? Drop him off at school and pick him up so you know he isn't doing something on the way there or home that YOU disapprove of? Give the kid some breathing room and hope you raised him right. I'm assuming that he will be graduating in May... are you going to forbid him from going to college because he WILL encounter homo-sexuals, bi-sexuals and heterosexuals engaging in safe sex. There will be sex, drugs, drinking, partying, swearing. Loosen the reins a little bit and believe that you reared him well. You're going on about being a "good mother" then believe that you did the best you could. No matter how much you preach your beliefs, opinions and morals he is his own person... not a clone of you. Trust that he is doing the right thing for himself, as you should have taught him to do... and not to listen to what others say about him.
